What Is Resilience?
Have you ever had times in your life when things just seem to get on top of you? Stressful events or situations are just too much to bear. This is when it helps people to be resilient. But what does being resilient mean?
Resilience is the ability to recover and move on in the face of difficult circumstances. It is to being able to “bounce back” from life’s struggles.
Resilience helps people to:
• Deal with stress and adversity
• Be less prone to difficulties such as anxiety and depression
• Overcome childhood disadvantage
• Reach out to new opportunities
The evidence for resilience comes from years of research that looked at why some people seem to do well in the face of life’s struggles and some do less well. Resilience is shaped by an interaction of a range of things.
Why is resilient thinking so important?
What happens to our thinking in difficult situations?
People generally maintain a balance between their thoughts and feelings. It is our thinking that helps us control our feelings. Strong emotions like anger, fear or sadness can make our thinking close down. It is as if the rational part of our mind becomes flooded. The result is we are not thinking straight. When this happens we often do things that really don’t work for us. Negative emotions narrow our focus to deal with the problem in front of us. The fight or flight reaction makes us just want to resolve the problem fast.
On the other hand, when we are in more control of our thinking we are more likely to see that situation and its solutions more broadly. We can be more flexible and creative in how we deal with it.
Calm times Thinking 50% Feelings 50%
Strong emotions Thinking 25% Feelings 75%
Does your thinking get hampered by your emotions more than you would like?
What happens when it does?
So let’s ask, how important is this work for you?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is it to get more control over your thinking?
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