When confronted with difficulties or challenges thoughts flood through our thinking in a flash. As discussed they are based on:
If thoughts tend to center on certain things then the feeling that follows is predictable.
People cannot get at your thoughts or change your mind unless we let them or want them to. You have control over what you think or say to yourself. What do you think of that statement? So how do you gain more control over your thinking?
In looking back to our ABC’s (Adversity, Beliefs and Consequences) the beliefs (our thinking) matter a great deal because they will shape the intensity of our feelings and what we do. When we are more resilient we are not saying we don’t have strong feelings. We are able to regulate and control them to respond to situations in ways that work better for us.
The skills that help us move forward are: