What strengths do you already have?
In Australia we tend to be quick at seeing our weaknesses. Seeing our strengths is more difficult.
Giving yourself thinking time
Impulse control is being able to stop, think through options and consequences and choose what is best.
Empathy is the understanding of what it is like being in someone else’s shoes. It is an important part of strong relationships.
Believing in your ability
Do we believe we can tackle most things head on and bounce back when things get tough? It is the belief that what we do does make a difference.
Recognizing your feelings
Being aware of your feelings is vital, because strong feelings of anxiety or sadness can make you feel powerless. Once you name the feeling, you have more chance of controlling it.
Reaching out has two parts. It is the ability to take on life’s opportunities and not fear failure. It is also about being willing to ask for help. Some people see asking for help as a weakness. It is a strength acknowledging that we all need support at times and that it is ok to ask for help.
Staying hopeful (optimistic)
Can we see things as they are and make the best out of any given situation? This does not ignore difficult things, but not getting locked into negativity. It’s being able to be hopeful.
Analyzing the cause of problems
Analyzing the cause of problems Do we accurately decide the cause of problems? The word accurate is crucial. What we think about stressful events or problems affects how we feel and what we do.
Building on your strengths
Self-knowledge is a good tool to help us see our strengths. We all have examples of when we use our strengths well. Not over reacting to critics, thinking through what went wrong in a situation, believing you will do better next time.
Even if you are not as strong you would like in any of these abilities, you can strengthen them.
As you go through these 7 abilities that support resilience, ask yourself these questions:
• Which would I be stronger in?
• Which would be challenging?
Write down two you would not be as strong in.
Which one of these seven abilities would you like to be stronger in?
After you have worked through the rest of this workbook, look back over these seven abilities and go through these questions again.
If you keep working on these skills, putting in the effort and learning from experience, change is always possible!